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How You Deserved to Be Parented—And How to Give That to Yourself Now

Every child deserves to grow up feeling safe, valued, and unconditionally loved—but not everyone got that. If you’re asking yourself, How did I deserve to be parented? you’re already doing something powerful: naming what you needed and didn’t receive. This reflection isn’t just about grief; it’s about clarity. It’s about recognizing that you still deserve those things—safety, love, respect, and space to grow—even now. Healing means learning to give yourself what should have always been yours. It’s not too late. You deserved better then, and you deserve better now.

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Reclaiming Sexuality After Religious Trauma: A Guide to Unlearning and Rediscovery

Unlearning fear, shame, and rigid beliefs around sexuality is no small task, but it’s possible. If you grew up in an environment where sexuality was controlled, feared, or labeled as sinful, it’s natural to feel lost—or even afraid—when trying to reconnect with your body and desires. But here’s the truth: your body is yours, pleasure is not a sin, and sexuality is not something you need permission for. This guide is about stepping into self-ownership, at your own pace, on your own terms. Healing is possible. Desire is not gone. And you are allowed to reclaim what was always yours.

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Dissociation vs. Depersonalization/Derealization: What’s the Difference?

If you’ve ever felt disconnected from yourself or reality, you might have wondered: Am I dissociating? Is this depersonalization or derealization (DP/DR)? While these terms are related, they aren’t interchangeable. Dissociation is a broad category that includes many ways the mind disconnects—from memory gaps to emotional numbing—while DP/DR specifically refers to the eerie sensation of feeling unreal or detached from your own body or surroundings.

What makes it even trickier? If your sense of self has always felt fractured, you might not even realize it until you learn what a cohesive self is supposed to feel like. It’s like trying to understand water while you’re swimming in it—you don’t see it until something forces you to step back and question it. This post breaks down the differences between dissociation and DP/DR, helping you recognize what’s happening and why awareness is the first step toward grounding yourself again.

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Intelligence Isn’t the Villain: Calling Out the ‘Sadness Is Caused by Understanding’ Cop-Out.

We’ve all heard it—those tired phrases that try to turn awareness into a curse. “Sadness is caused by intelligence.” “Ignorance is bliss.” These ideas sound profound until you actually think about them. They paint knowledge as a burden and avoidance as a form of happiness, conveniently skipping over the fact that ignorance has consequences and understanding can lead to more than just despair.

This post is a pushback against that kind of defeatist thinking. Intelligence doesn’t inherently lead to sadness—it’s how we engage with what we know that matters. Awareness doesn’t have to be a weight; it can be fuel. Let’s stop romanticizing avoidance and start talking about what we do with what we understand.

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How Accurate Are the Inside Out Movies to Human Emotions?

Pixar's Inside Out offers a colorful take on our emotional lives, blending entertainment with insights into human psychology. But how close is it to reality? Dive into the science behind core emotions, memory, and identity to explore what the movie gets right—and where it simplifies our complexity.

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Navigating responsibility as a white person means confronting systemic inequality, unpacking ingrained biases, and embracing a lifelong commitment to equity. It’s not about guilt—it’s about action, accountability, and fostering justice. From self-education to amplifying marginalized voices, here’s a guide to meaningful engagement.

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What Does It Mean to Be a Responsible White Person on This Planet?

Navigating responsibility as a white person means confronting systemic inequality, unpacking ingrained biases, and embracing a lifelong commitment to equity. It’s not about guilt—it’s about action, accountability, and fostering justice. From self-education to amplifying marginalized voices, here’s a guide to meaningful engagement.

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Late-Stage Capitalism: The Cracks in the System

Late-stage capitalism highlights the glaring inequalities, excesses, and contradictions of advanced capitalist systems. From extreme wealth concentration to the commodification of basic needs, it’s a term that captures societal trends that feel unsustainable and unjust. But what does it really mean, and how does it manifest in our lives?

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